“Drugs destroyed my life”

I needed to take some time off from everything. The past month was a huge life lesson. A lesson that thought me how a single moment can destroy your life.

How it all started ? Like this. I had a childhood friend:very nice, well-behaved guy. He was able to move the mountains for his dreams. His family situation was never Ok, but he never stopped fighting for himself and his grandma who raised him.(his parents are divorced and he loved to stay more with his grandma due to a home situation).

Our roads separated when we moved to different countries. He was working in popular restaurants and had a dream to win a cooking contest. He did it. And that was the moment which changed his life. He won an important amount of money and was having a lot of plans.The last time I met him was 4 years ago after he won it. He told me about what he wants to do further and was very happy. But after one year, he moved back in Romania and entered an entourage which literally destroyed him. He changed completely towards everyone and forgot about his hometown friends. I tried to contact him several times, with no outcome… Little we or his family knew that in his entourage, drugs were an ordinary thing 😦

Last year, his grandma died. It was the “end” of his life and his career. During his funeral, he was on drugs, but no one knew. He attacked a beggar, but people thought it was due to his sorrow caused by the loss. His father took him home and he jumped on the window to escape. That night, he killed a woman. A stranger.He hit her with extreme aggressivity until she died… The last month was his trial. He received 10 years of prison. His last words when he said goodbye to us were”Drugs destroyed my life”

Guys, I had known and still know people dealing with drug addiction. I lost friends (took their lives) because of this. The reasons for using drugs? Mainly entourage.They don’t want to look stupid in front of their friends. Or family problems.

Please ask for help. Drugs are not healing, are destroying:dreams. lives, families, EVERYTHING. One single moment destroyed my friend’s life. Only one. He can’t remember how he hit her or how he fell asleep next to her. The only thing he remembers is that while he was drugged, he had the impression that demons are following him.

Drug addiction can be healed. In time and with specialist support, there is a way to give up. Just try. Don’t leave drugs to destroy your life too. If not for you, do for the people you love and for the dreams you have. And remember that the night is the darkest before the dawn. There is always hope.

City break in Bristol :) Part 1

sdrWhen I think of Bristol, I, immediately have the image of one of the nicest and interesting cities in the UK. This city has such a positive vibe and so many things to offer that it’s impossible to don’t love it.

It was one of those days when I felt the need to get out of Exeter. As I was having a week off, I have decided to go to Cardiff and Bristol. My colleagues told me a lot about their experiences in Bristol so I have decided to give it a chance and visit it.

Packed everything, bought my coach ticket and the holiday started. Did the booking for the accommodation while I was on the road so I was ready for a new adventure.

When I finally arrived, the first impression was awful. The coach station was in the refurbishment process and the weather was absolute nightmare. Pouring. As there were no taxis available,I started to walk up to the hotel. And step by step, admiring the view and getting soaked (as I never have an umbrella with me) , I started to like the city. Even on bad weather was lovely. I stayed at Ibis city center hotel where the guys were fantastic. They gave me so much info about the city and what to do. I checked into my room and took a look at the map provided. I checked what is to see nearby and I went for a walk. The Aquarium(DEFINITELY A MUST SEE) and We The Curious were right next to the hotel. After a short walk ,I arrived at the harbor, where you can find restaurants and pubs. They have a really good variety in terms of food and drinks.

After getting lost on the streets of Bristol, I finally managed to find the city center with its shopping centers but as it was getting late and most of them were closing , went back to for a walk by the harbor to make an idea about what I can visit the next 3 days.

How is to be a single female tourist in Bristol? What is to see and do? Is it safe and worth? Is Bath to be visited while on Bristol? Stay tuned and be part of Yanny’s Journey.

What will people say?

Choices. Every day you must choose: from basic things (food,clothes ,etc) to major decisions. Sometimes is easy, sometimes is not. There are times when a choice can forever affect your life. Especially those made to please the others.

I.personally made some bad choices throughout my life.I had moments when I wanted to give up on everything :including my life.Then I realised that the only one who can change anything is me. Sometimes it seems we only have two choices:to choose the easy way or to give up. No efforts, no middle way,nothing. This giving up thing and the easy way are only results of our low self-confidence. We don’t trust ourselves. And most of the time, I hear “what will people say if I do that/love that person?” For 20 years, I lived with this . Gave up on people I loved and on my dreams because the ones around me were controlling my life and decided for me. Up to a point.

We must wake up and understand that we only have one life. The world is not taking care of us, be with us when we feel alone. It’s in our power to draw the lines of our life the way we want. Our parents lived their life the way they wanted. Times are changing. We are changing.Stand up for yourself and live the life you always dreamed of. Let the people talk, they will never shut up. But your own happiness and your true love is a one-way only ticket. If you lose it, it won’t come back.

So what do you choose? Live with the world? Care about what will they say? Or be happy?

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Let’s travel and discover: Torquay

img_20170613_150904Hellooo!! One of the best things about my ex-workplace was that it was extremely well situated between some lovely places to visit in Devon. One of this places was Torquay. Some of us prefer to go shopping, do yoga or read in order to relax and get rid of the stress. When I feel that I need a break, I travel. Anywhere, no matter how close or far. Me, myself and my phone. Oh and the music. Compulsory:). For more than 1 year, without exaggerating I have been visiting this place for at least once-twice monthly.

But why is Torquay so special? Well, it gives you everything you want to relax. I was usually going there in the morning and coming in the night. Torquay has a lovely beach and paths to walk by the sea.As in Paignton, a lot of seagulls too:).Both it’s worth it. There are also lots of coffee shops and restaurants, really affordable.

Things to do?

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Shopping!!! – All type of stores, from family owned to high street ones. It’s impossible to go to Torquay and leave without something.

Living coasts- Penguin or seal lover? Then you have to see this. It’s a must-see of Torquay. As I was saying in my previous post, you can buy a combo ticket if you want to visit Paignton zoo too. But you definitely must visit it.Oh, and if you fancy a coffee,before the entrance, there is a coffee shop, which also sells food. They serve a yummy caramel-latte.

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Babbacombe Model Village– suitable for everyone, it is a highly recommended activity to do while you are in Torquay. Please take plenty of time to visit. Both the village and living coasts require time to be fully visited.

Walk. You don’t have to go and do something specifically. Take a book and read by the beach. Admire the view, take photos and walk.Discover every part of Torquay. The good and the bad.

Torquay is a lovely place to go and visit. Escape the routine and try something new. Go and explore it. It has a lot to offer. Pay extra attention in the summer when it is really crowded,to avoid incidents. Overall, it is a highly recommended place to go.

Thanks for reading and continue to be part of Yanny’s journey:)

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Do you want to go to study in the UK?Then you must read this (part 1 of 3)

Hello again. Today is about one of the best chapters of my life : being a university student in the UK. This post will have 3 parts as there are a lot of things to talk about.Therefore, the first part will be about the process and the first day in the UK, the second one about the university system and the 3 about student life and pros and cons of being a student in the United Kingdom.

But let’s get started. It all started in the autumn of 2010. At that moment, in my country, there weren’t too many people willing to study abroad. Most of them were either preferring to continue the studies in their country or don’t do a university course at all.This was not applying for myself too. I have always dreamed to study something related to tourism as since I was a kid , I wanted to travel and see the world. But the problem was that in my country couldn’t find any good university major related to tourism. One of my father’s friends was having a daughter in the UK so I have decided to contact her and see if it’s worth to apply for British Universities. After the discussion with her, something told me that soon enough I will be moving abroad.

I started to apply through UCAS and been accepted to 3 universities. One of them had an industrial placement for a year too.Hospitality and Tourism Management and 1 year of practice!!!! Words can’t explain the happiness I felt then. My dream came true. I had to pass an IELTS test with a minimum of 6 and had to have 8 in my Baccalaureate exam. I have passed them both with a higher degree than requested. There was nothing holding me back anymore.

In August I have received the enrollment papers and all the dates regarding enrollment and induction. On 23 September I left my country. This is the worst part.Imagine a 19 years old with 3 pieces of luggage, for the first time being separated from her parents and dog. I didn’t want anyone to come with me as I knew there may be a possibility to give up and come back. So I left the country by myself. I remember when I arrived in Luton, I was so lost and I would say scared that one flight attendant who saw me (can’t remember the name of the company)took me to the coach station and stayed with me until the coach came. The journey between Luton and Birmingham seemed endless.

When I arrived in Bham it was pouring.Everything seemed so sad. Or maybe it was just me. I eventually arrived at the campus and checked in. When I went to my room, 2 guys came and helped me with the luggage.One of them is still my friend :).Only after I  entered the room it hit me. I was alone. All by myself in a foreign country. Knowing no one. And as a “bonus” the Internet wasn’t working that day and my phone had a trouble with the roaming. I don’t think anyone can imagine the mental pain that I had to deal with that day. It was terrible. My dream came true but I was distraught.

After the phone started working,I called my mom and told her to tell my father to come and take me home. I didn’t want to stay there anymore. I didn’t care about the university anymore. I just wanted back home. Eventually, I fell asleep. Crying.Been woken up at 3 am by my neighbors who found out that there was a new girl in the flat and had to go and drink with them. My eyes were red and swollen. The last thing I needed was a drink. I refused them politely and fell asleep again. That morning was the one that changed everything. (part 2 coming soon)

Why do we play with feelings?

Yesterday I was with some friends celebrating a name anniversary.And we started to talk about relationships. One of the girls had a similar experience, with the difference that her guy never ever try to maintain contact with her. My ex called me first thing at midnight on New Year’s night. Acting like nothing happened. He continued to check all my Whatsapp statuses and liking everything I post on social media. Furthermore, he was one of the first people to contact me when he found out about the death of my friend.

What is it going on with him? Dumping me for his ex but being only with his friends on New Year’s party and sending me messages? I tried to answer only basic things but I wanted to ask him soo many things. It’s been more than 2 weeks but I still miss him. However,I chose to continue with no-contact strategy.

Why do we prefer to play with other’s feelings? Due to confusion? Preferring someone that we already know but running after others? Is it helping our ego to know that there are more people wanting us? In this case, he definitely doesn’t know what he wants. Or maybe he does but he is playing. It’s really stupid doing this especially to people that are really nice and don’t deserve this at all. My grandfather told me when I was a kid that the most important in a relationship is to treat your partner as you want to be treated. Love and give. Don’t expect the moon from him but from your part give everything.

But what happens when you give everything and not receive the same? Is it enough for a person to love and care for 2? Is it fair for someone to don’t receive everything from his/her partner just because they are a couple?

We all deserve to love and be loved. To be cared for and appreciated. I have learned that I am just losing my time waiting for someone who will never give me 100%. There are 7+ billion people in this world. Our soul-mate is definitely somewhere. Be patient and hope. And love those who really matter.

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Let’s discover: Paignton, United Kingdom

Hello, beautiful people. As the weather outside is really cold and ugly,I was thinking to write about a more nicer and sunnier destination. Paignton is a lovely seaside city located in Devon, South West England.Together with Torquay and Brixham are creating Torbay area or better known as the English Riviera.

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Paignton is a holiday destination suitable for both short and long stays. It has a lot of things and places to keep the tourists busy and in the case you want to visit other near resorts, Torquay is the nearest( more about it, in the future posts).

So, what has Paignton has to offer?

1.Beach

If you love going for long walks on the beach, then you must go to Paignton. It is really clean , dog-friendly (you see dogs running all over the place 🙂 ) and a barefoot walk in the sand will make you forget about everything. Or you can have a coffee while you stay by the sea. There is a place on the beach which is open only in the summer, but the lady serving there is an absolute love and her coffee is amazing. The only advice I would have for you: if you want to eat on the beach, pay attention ,especially in the summer. The seagulls are a nightmare. I remember on one of my visits here, I was with a friend and a seagull stole his ice-cream . As the Britons would say: he wasn’t impressed 😂

2. Paignton Pier

Wonderland of Paignton :). The perfect place if you are with kids , or if you are an adult who never forgot to be a child. It has a large variety of games with plenty of prizes. Although these type of games can be seen in the city centre too, the Pier is definitely a must see.

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3. ZOO

If you go and visit Paignton, do not miss the zoo. One of the most beautiful and large zoos’s I have ever seen (and I saw a few). The adult ticket is somewhere around £16 but if you want to visit Torquay, you can buy a combo ticket and gain entry to the zoo and the Living Coast in Torquay for approximately  £22 . Take at least 2-3 hours to visit everything. The most I stayed in there was for like 3 hours and a half. But it’s worthy. For both adults and kids.

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4. Dartmouth Steam Railway

Are you passionate about steam trains? Then you must definitely arrange a day trip with Dartmouth Steam Railway. The price is £17.50 and it covers the train journey up to Kingswear and the ferry  from Kingswear to Dartmouth. It is an absolutely fantastic experience, with plenty of things and places to visit in Dartmouth (more coming soon)

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5. Shopping

Compared to Torquay, it is poorer in terms of shopping places. But it has coffee shops , restaurants (especially by the seaside), food shops and souvenirs shops. And plenty of charity shops, from where you can buy new brand clothes for a bargain price.

But how to get to Paignton?

If you are a tourist and don’t have a car,the easiest way to get to Paignton is by train. Exeter-Paignton is taking an hour and it costs up to £10 return. And in the price, some amazing views are included too 🙂

To conclude, Paignton has everything a tourist can ask for: beach, sea , places to stay, to eat, tourist attractions , really beautiful views , friendly people and an amazing vibe.