What will people say?

Choices. Every day you must choose: from basic things (food,clothes ,etc) to major decisions. Sometimes is easy, sometimes is not. There are times when a choice can forever affect your life. Especially those made to please the others.

I.personally made some bad choices throughout my life.I had moments when I wanted to give up on everything :including my life.Then I realised that the only one who can change anything is me. Sometimes it seems we only have two choices:to choose the easy way or to give up. No efforts, no middle way,nothing. This giving up thing and the easy way are only results of our low self-confidence. We don’t trust ourselves. And most of the time, I hear “what will people say if I do that/love that person?” For 20 years, I lived with this . Gave up on people I loved and on my dreams because the ones around me were controlling my life and decided for me. Up to a point.

We must wake up and understand that we only have one life. The world is not taking care of us, be with us when we feel alone. It’s in our power to draw the lines of our life the way we want. Our parents lived their life the way they wanted. Times are changing. We are changing.Stand up for yourself and live the life you always dreamed of. Let the people talk, they will never shut up. But your own happiness and your true love is a one-way only ticket. If you lose it, it won’t come back.

So what do you choose? Live with the world? Care about what will they say? Or be happy?

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Let’s travel and discover: Torquay

img_20170613_150904Hellooo!! One of the best things about my ex-workplace was that it was extremely well situated between some lovely places to visit in Devon. One of this places was Torquay. Some of us prefer to go shopping, do yoga or read in order to relax and get rid of the stress. When I feel that I need a break, I travel. Anywhere, no matter how close or far. Me, myself and my phone. Oh and the music. Compulsory:). For more than 1 year, without exaggerating I have been visiting this place for at least once-twice monthly.

But why is Torquay so special? Well, it gives you everything you want to relax. I was usually going there in the morning and coming in the night. Torquay has a lovely beach and paths to walk by the sea.As in Paignton, a lot of seagulls too:).Both it’s worth it. There are also lots of coffee shops and restaurants, really affordable.

Things to do?

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Shopping!!! – All type of stores, from family owned to high street ones. It’s impossible to go to Torquay and leave without something.

Living coasts- Penguin or seal lover? Then you have to see this. It’s a must-see of Torquay. As I was saying in my previous post, you can buy a combo ticket if you want to visit Paignton zoo too. But you definitely must visit it.Oh, and if you fancy a coffee,before the entrance, there is a coffee shop, which also sells food. They serve a yummy caramel-latte.

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Babbacombe Model Village– suitable for everyone, it is a highly recommended activity to do while you are in Torquay. Please take plenty of time to visit. Both the village and living coasts require time to be fully visited.

Walk. You don’t have to go and do something specifically. Take a book and read by the beach. Admire the view, take photos and walk.Discover every part of Torquay. The good and the bad.

Torquay is a lovely place to go and visit. Escape the routine and try something new. Go and explore it. It has a lot to offer. Pay extra attention in the summer when it is really crowded,to avoid incidents. Overall, it is a highly recommended place to go.

Thanks for reading and continue to be part of Yanny’s journey:)

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Why do we play with feelings?

Yesterday I was with some friends celebrating a name anniversary.And we started to talk about relationships. One of the girls had a similar experience, with the difference that her guy never ever try to maintain contact with her. My ex called me first thing at midnight on New Year’s night. Acting like nothing happened. He continued to check all my Whatsapp statuses and liking everything I post on social media. Furthermore, he was one of the first people to contact me when he found out about the death of my friend.

What is it going on with him? Dumping me for his ex but being only with his friends on New Year’s party and sending me messages? I tried to answer only basic things but I wanted to ask him soo many things. It’s been more than 2 weeks but I still miss him. However,I chose to continue with no-contact strategy.

Why do we prefer to play with other’s feelings? Due to confusion? Preferring someone that we already know but running after others? Is it helping our ego to know that there are more people wanting us? In this case, he definitely doesn’t know what he wants. Or maybe he does but he is playing. It’s really stupid doing this especially to people that are really nice and don’t deserve this at all. My grandfather told me when I was a kid that the most important in a relationship is to treat your partner as you want to be treated. Love and give. Don’t expect the moon from him but from your part give everything.

But what happens when you give everything and not receive the same? Is it enough for a person to love and care for 2? Is it fair for someone to don’t receive everything from his/her partner just because they are a couple?

We all deserve to love and be loved. To be cared for and appreciated. I have learned that I am just losing my time waiting for someone who will never give me 100%. There are 7+ billion people in this world. Our soul-mate is definitely somewhere. Be patient and hope. And love those who really matter.

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Let’s discover: Paignton, United Kingdom

Hello, beautiful people. As the weather outside is really cold and ugly,I was thinking to write about a more nicer and sunnier destination. Paignton is a lovely seaside city located in Devon, South West England.Together with Torquay and Brixham are creating Torbay area or better known as the English Riviera.

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Paignton is a holiday destination suitable for both short and long stays. It has a lot of things and places to keep the tourists busy and in the case you want to visit other near resorts, Torquay is the nearest( more about it, in the future posts).

So, what has Paignton has to offer?

1.Beach

If you love going for long walks on the beach, then you must go to Paignton. It is really clean , dog-friendly (you see dogs running all over the place 🙂 ) and a barefoot walk in the sand will make you forget about everything. Or you can have a coffee while you stay by the sea. There is a place on the beach which is open only in the summer, but the lady serving there is an absolute love and her coffee is amazing. The only advice I would have for you: if you want to eat on the beach, pay attention ,especially in the summer. The seagulls are a nightmare. I remember on one of my visits here, I was with a friend and a seagull stole his ice-cream . As the Britons would say: he wasn’t impressed 😂

2. Paignton Pier

Wonderland of Paignton :). The perfect place if you are with kids , or if you are an adult who never forgot to be a child. It has a large variety of games with plenty of prizes. Although these type of games can be seen in the city centre too, the Pier is definitely a must see.

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3. ZOO

If you go and visit Paignton, do not miss the zoo. One of the most beautiful and large zoos’s I have ever seen (and I saw a few). The adult ticket is somewhere around £16 but if you want to visit Torquay, you can buy a combo ticket and gain entry to the zoo and the Living Coast in Torquay for approximately  £22 . Take at least 2-3 hours to visit everything. The most I stayed in there was for like 3 hours and a half. But it’s worthy. For both adults and kids.

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4. Dartmouth Steam Railway

Are you passionate about steam trains? Then you must definitely arrange a day trip with Dartmouth Steam Railway. The price is £17.50 and it covers the train journey up to Kingswear and the ferry  from Kingswear to Dartmouth. It is an absolutely fantastic experience, with plenty of things and places to visit in Dartmouth (more coming soon)

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5. Shopping

Compared to Torquay, it is poorer in terms of shopping places. But it has coffee shops , restaurants (especially by the seaside), food shops and souvenirs shops. And plenty of charity shops, from where you can buy new brand clothes for a bargain price.

But how to get to Paignton?

If you are a tourist and don’t have a car,the easiest way to get to Paignton is by train. Exeter-Paignton is taking an hour and it costs up to £10 return. And in the price, some amazing views are included too 🙂

To conclude, Paignton has everything a tourist can ask for: beach, sea , places to stay, to eat, tourist attractions , really beautiful views , friendly people and an amazing vibe.

 

If tomorrow never comes.

One of the best things about working in the hospitality industry is that you get to know people. Not only customers. They are coming and going. But you get to work in a team that if you are lucky enough can become like your family.

I had the chance to be part of 2 amazing teams. With most of my ex-colleagues I am still afriend and talk anytime we have the chance. During my last job, I had the opportunity to meet one of the nicest and funniest people ever. His name was Paul. I have never , ever seen him angry or sad. Or saying no to helping others. He was always there, anytime we were calling him he was coming and help. I’ve been blessed to work many shifts together and he taught me a lot of things. Both personal and professional. Such a lovely, funny and smiley person. Last time I talked to him was a couple months ago. He was happy, telling me about his family. His wife, children and granddaughter were his weak point. He was absolutely over heels when was talking about them.

Last night, I have received a message. It was from one of my ex-colleagues. “Paul went for a run and suffered a heart attack. He died” . WHATTTTT????????? Whooooo?????? I didn’t believe it for a second. I called my ex-manager. She was crying. Paul was dead. Our lovely man is not with us anymore. At that moment I hated myself. I have said so many times that I will call him or at least text to check on him. But always something came up and forgot about it. Now I can’t call him anymore…

The same happened with one of my grandfathers few years ago. I was getting ready to fly back abroad, as the holiday was over and had to get back to uni. I quickly went to say goodbye to him and my grandmother. Although he asked me to stay a little longer, that day I didn’t do it. I told him I was going to see him in the next holiday. Kissed and hugged both of them and went home. Didn’t think about it anymore. 2 weeks later, I dreamed of him. He was saying goodbye. The next morning he was found dead in the hospital. I didn’t have the chance to attend his funeral and say goodbye. 7 years later, I still feel guilty and it hurts that in that day I didn’t stay longer. Regrets are worthless now. It won’t bring anyone back.

The aim of this is to understand that we should appreciate more the people we have next to us. Call them more often, text and see how are they doing. Value them more when they are alive and not regretting after. It is enough a moment. To lose all. Maybe they are now in a better place. But we are left with wounds. Some goes with the time .Others stay there forever.

But what if tomorrow never comes?

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2018. The year of lessons.

 

D2L-Year-in-Review-2018-Blog-Banner-1400x400If I would describe 2018 in one word it would simply be :a lesson. It’s been one of the most beautiful but challenging years of my life. One that helped me discover myself and the people around me. It had everything:love, sorrow, happiness, friends , work, achievements and the most important: life lessons.

It made me realize that who is supposed to stay in our life will do it, who is not will leave. No matter how much you want someone, if it’s not meant to be it won’t. It’s been like a storm sometimes, but the sun was always turning up.

I had the chance to give up my old job, do new courses, develop myself, gaining strength to open the blog and share my stories. I lost people that I loved and wanted, been betrayed and abandoned, but all of this just helped me to become stronger and to stand up for myself. I learned to appreciate more the people that really care for and always supported and loved me. I stopped listening to others and be controlled by what people have to say about my decisions. I have discovered how to seem in the front of others when I was dying inside. I moved on.

New year, new projects, new desires. New ME.

If I would have to make a top 5 lessons of 2018, it would be like this:

  1. Never let yourself or your dreams down by anyone. 

You only have 1 life. For a long time, I left my parents or friends to have a say in my decisions. This year taught me to be more independent and follow my dreams and make my own decisions. My life, my choices.

2. Everything happens for a reason

It’s been a tough lesson to learn. People will come to your life:some will stay, some will leave. Don’t try to keep the ones who want to go. Don’t fight for them. If they are meant to be in your life, they will be back .If not, no. Everything happens for a reason.

3. Not everything is what it seems.

For almost 3 months I believed in a person who seemed perfect for me. He ended up being unworthy. It’s been so sad to move on from this, but it only made me realize that I am stronger than I thought. And I deserve better. Someone who really loves me and won’t dump on Christmas.

4. Be more positive and appreciate what I have and achieved until now.

2018 it’s been really funny, with lots of new destinations, travel and holidays. New experiences, new people, new things to learn. I learned to be more grateful for everything I have and understand that life is not always pink. It’s a carousel. Up and down.

5. Family and friends are everything.

The most important lesson of 2018 was that you are the wealthiest person if you have the ones you love healthy and next to you. Even though sometimes we are far away from our friends or family, we always know that we have a place called HOME. With people who will do everything for us and support us in hard times.

 

When crossing the line, 2018 was an amazing year. A year to remember. But 2019 is coming. With more hope, love ,new projects and new lessons. Let’s hope for a better year, for a more peaceful and happier year.

Thank you all who have been part of my journey this year. Wish you all the best and a prosperous and happy New Year. See you next year with more stories and experiences. So please continue to be part of Yanny’s Journey 🙂

HAPPY NEW YEAR EVERYONE!!!! 🙂

 

 

 

Let’s discover: Best Seaside Resorts in Romania

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When you say seaside in Romania , you are not only saying Constanta but also its seaside resorts.

Some of the best seaside places to visit when you are in Romania are : Eforie Nord, Neptun, Mamaia,  and Vama Veche. But let’s discover them one by one.

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Eforie Nord:

Pros:

  • suitable for all types of tourists:single, couples, families
  • plenty of places to eat, shop and stay
  • lots of summer and water activities( try Eforie Aqua Park)

Cons:

  •     it gets overcrowded during the season (the beach is full)
  •     not too many tourist attractions or places to visit

 

Neptun

Pros:

  • one of the most beautiful seaside resorts
  • very good restaurants and shops
  • lovely beach
  • variety of things to do: day and night entertainment, walkings by the lake
  • water activities in the sea /lake

Cons:

  • more expensive than Eforie
  • during the season can be hard to find places at famous restaurants or bars

Vama Veche:

Pros:

  • the most bohemian seaside resort
  • the music never ends 🙂
  • if you prefer freedom and just want to have fun, you must come here
  • tent lover? then it’s definitely for you

Cons:

  • not recommended for people who prefer tranquility
  • not many posh places

 

Mamaia

Pros:

  • Best resort for having fun in all its ways
  • Large selection of restaurants and hotels
  • Lots of clubs (Fratelli and Loft are the most famous)
  • Tourist attractions and things to do (the holiday village is a must see)

Cons:

  • extremely populated during the season
  • the most expensive seaside resort
  • highly preferred by teenagers and adults but not so much by elders

 

As I visited all of them, I would highly recommend you to do it too. Each one has its beauty, attractions and story to offer. On the other hand, don’t go in Vama Veche and Neptun between mid of Sept- 1st of May as almost everything is closed  Mamaia and Eforie can be visited all year round. Also, during the season, be ready to deal with heavy traffic and some impolite drivers (especially if you are not from Constanta or its proximity).

But overall, coming to the seaside in Romania it is an experience. A lovely , funny and to remember one. It gives you everything: cheap prices, lots of activities, places to stay and tourist attractions, lovely people, freedom and happiness. And the most important: some of the nicest beaches to relax on and the Black Sea.

 

 

Merry Christmas everyone!!!

 

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Today is about Christmas. The most beautiful time of the year. The time when families are gathering together, when you hear carols and make the Christmas tree, eat good food and have fun.

Since I was a kid, Christmas is my favorite holiday. I remember when I was a kid and preparing cookies and sweet bread(Romanian traditional sweet). My grandparents were waking me up at 5 to help them cook. I totally loved it as I was having lots of fun and laughs. It was everything so funny, lovely and peaceful. On Christmas Eve, I was going with my friends and go to our neighbors and sing carols. In return  we were receiving oranges, cookies and money. After, it was time to decorate the Christmas tree and wait for Santa. I tried so many times to stay awake and wait for him but failed every time. The Christmas day was the day when presents were opened and the family was coming to our place. Our house was full. The next 2 days, we were going to have lunch at our grandparents and see our family friends.Christmas was perfect 🙂

And it still is. Somehow. Unfortunately, nowadays people focus more on the material part of Christmas and not the spiritual one. We start to lose the traditions and believe that if we buy a nice present for the loved ones is enough. It is not. Christmas is about being with the loved ones, fun times, lots of laughs and peace. And gratitude for everything you have and for having people to share it with. For the last few years, the number of kids coming to sing carols decreased a lot. But instead, the shops are full.People running around to find the perfect present. I would give anything to be able to have a Christmas like I used to have when I was a child. But I can’t. Because some of the people left, some of them are in heaven. But the memories are still there.

We should feel Christmas. Today we should think about everyone in need and send our best thoughts. Be nice to people, love them. Be next to the loved ones and forget about the rest. Presents don’t buy feelings. If you are far from your family, call them . Send them a nice message. It means a lot. Christmas makes us better people. Gives us positive vibes.

It should be Christmas every day. Be happy.Be positive. Love. And if you feel lonely, don’t forget that there is always hope. Have faith. Things will only get better.

Merry Christmas everyone!!! 🙂

Let’s travel and discover!

Hey! From today on, this blog will have a new section: travel. You will be able to discover places like Romania, Mallorca, Dubai, Turkey, United Kingdom and so on. Step by step. Tourist attractions, useful tips, things to do and see, experiences and impressions.The good and the bad.

The next post will be about Romania. One of the most beautiful countries with lots of stories and things to show. The Danube,the Carpathian Mountains and Black sea. All in one country.  First stop:Constanta and its Black sea. Just stay tuned and be part of Yanny’s journey.

Why do we prefer to run from everything instead of facing it?

Today is about one of the greatest lessons someone can learn and that is to stop running and take responsibility for his/her actions. Nowadays, we are so used to take a short way and run if we feel something is too much that we forget how to face the ugly when it comes and maintain the human relationships. We are getting used to this since we are kids. In order to avoid being in trouble and receiving punishment, we prefer to act as nothing happened and throw the guilt on someone else.  Then , when we become adults, we keep the same template: job mistake ? not me…. failure? not me…. relationship not working? his/her fault.Not mine. It’s never us. Instead of understanding our faults and trying to deal with them, we choose to be the victims and wait for someone else’s support.

If people would understand to communicate and be more caring towards each other, this world would be a way better place to live. In my country, there is a saying : “No matter what,always leave room for hello”. How it would be if instead of leaving a person who truly loves us because of stupid things, we would try to find a solution and trying to make the relationship work and not replacing that person immediately “just because it didn’t work”? Or if we would understand that maybe we were wrong with our friends and having the courage to sorting it? Why do we lose important people in our life because of stupid things and running from responsibilities? Is it human nature?Education? Fear of not hurting the others?

Maybe one day we will change. Or we will learn from our mistakes. But what if we lose those people for good? What if is it too late and no turning back? We should appreciate and fight for everything we have . Don’t let people who truly love and care for you go. Stay, listen and talk. Do things together. Dream and make plans. Love and be loved. Because is the most beautiful thing it can happen to you.