“My childhood is a nightmare”

Hello!! I hope you are all well and safe. Since I was a teenager I volunteered for children from poor families. But since the pandemic started, I choose to extend it to children from normal families and teenagers who need advice or just someone who listens to them.

And there is a little boy, very well behaved but who always seems sad and uncomfortable. And before the holidays, I asked him to write a letter about how he feels about being a 9 years old child. And what he wrote left me speechless. From phrases like:” I just want a normal childhood cause mine is a nightmare”, to “my parents don’t let me play because they think my education is more important” or ” when my friends are going on trips or spending fun time together, I have to go to my piano and dance courses, which I hate”. And one of the things that shocked me the most was:” I truly want a pet, but my parents won’t even let me touch an animal, because they think it is a hazard for my health and safety”. Really?

Can someone please explain to me when society changed so much? I am 28, but I still can’t keep up with these changes. Like since when tablets, phones, and all the personal development courses replaced the actual childhood? My little cousin is only four years old and he is only interested in his tablet. Ask him to play like a normal child, and he gets lost. He is in his virtual world. What about that old childhood with games, friendships, and stuff? Since when it is normal to be scared of a pet instead of loving it just because your parents claim it is a health and safety hazard?

Let the children discover, explore, live their childhood. I understand that times changed, but we were children too. I was allowed to stay and play as long as I kept in mind that education was a priority. I was raised with animals (all type of animals), just because my parents and grandparents thought that it was important to develop my skills in any situation. I have bruises, scars, and memories for a lifetime. And friends from my childhood too. But I don’t regret a second, as I would do it all over again. Listen more to your kids’ dreams and necessities. Their childhood is not coming back. And they will grow up with frustrations and regrets for the lost time.

Have a fantastic Tuesday 🙂

Let's go back to our younger self.

Hello everyone! Tonight is all about our younger self. It is about the return to innocence. Let’s heal ourselves, starting from the roots.

This post is an imagination exercise. Because most of us are going through hard times due to the actual global situation, I want you to take 30 minutes just for yourself, somewhere alone with no distractions or people around. Just yourself. Close your eyes and imagine a meeting. You and younger self (I would say 8-10 years old version of yourself).Observe the behavior of the child and the environment he is in.

-What are you feeling? How do you react to seeing your child version? How is it to see that environment again?

Now, the second step is to approach the child and engage in a discussion. Remember that your time is limited. But enough to help you get a better idea of what needs to be healed inside you to be happy. The people that I previously did this exercise with, told me that the most important question they had for the child was:

“-What would make you sad if I stopped doing?”Be aware: the first reaction of the people when asking this question is to start crying. Don’t worry, it is part of the process. It happens to almost all of us.

However, the questions and the answers you may ask or get are endless. It depends on a variety of factors influencing our lives. But although this exercise can be a painful one, bringing back wounds that you thought were closed, it is also a helpful one for the soul. Because now you have plenty of time to work on yourself and change the things that you want to. It is never too late, you are not too old. Remember that only death is irreversible.

This is our time to evolve: mental, spiritual, however you want. But it requires a step-by-step technique. So why wouldn’t we start with our younger self?

Sending my best wishes to all you and keep being part of Yanny’s Journey!