Top 5 lessons of 2020

Hellooo! As the year is over, I was thinking of pointing out the top 5 lessons of 2020 and how this year pushed our limits, broke the wall, and obliged us to change. So let’s start:

  1. You can do anything you want: How many times weren’t you unsure about doing a certain thing or what will people think about it? Well, DO IT. It’s your life, not theirs. Learn, read, do a course, develop yourself. Anything that can help you improve your life and you as a person. Stop telling people about your dreams, work for them, and show the results afterwards. 
  2. Life changes in a second: Life doesn’t wait for us to decide if we are ready to do something or not. Sometimes it forces us to do so. How? Who knows? For example, I always wanted to work in hotels. And I did until the pandemic when everything closed. I am sure that things for hotels will not be back to normal soon, so I had to change the direction of my career. I learned about subjects that I never thought of as a possible money maker. From a duty manager in hotels before the pandemic, I ended up being a writer and content creator. And I am still learning to increase my chances in this new domain. So don’t take anything for granted
  3. Put yourself first: Who you truly are? What are your dreams? What do you want from life? Stop seeking validation and have expectations from others. Look in the mirror and see who you are not who others think you are. Stop putting yourself last and others first. Show yourself more love and care and you will see the difference.
  4. People always show their true colors: Even if you want or not. Some people will appear in your life for a reason, a season or to be by your side no matter what. Although the last category is extremely rare nowadays, they do exist. But the first category is the worst: are those people who turn up in your life for getting what they can from you and afterward disappear. The type of people who have absolutely nothing to give, only to receive. If someone wants to leave your life, open the door. Don’t force/beg anyone to stay. Who is supposed to stay will do without you asking for it. Last year I was thanking God for bringing in my life people that I thought were the best for me , while in reality, they were worse than enemies. So pay attention to who are you calling lovers, friends, family, and so on. Not always they are who you think.
  5. Be grateful, love, and live the moment: Be grateful for who you are and what you have. Love as much as you can, show love to people who need it the most. Be nicer and help whenever you can. You never know what the person next to you is going through. Live the moment: stop waiting for tomorrow, a week, month, or year to be happy. Happiness comes from inside, not outside. If you are not happy with yourself, you won’t be able to make or be happy with anyone else.

Happy Sunday everybody!! 🙂

2 years of Yanny’s Journey :)

6 December 2018. It all started 2 years ago. I can’t believe how fast time passed. Two years ago, on this day, I was launching this blog with a post about childhood. I didn’t know what to expect. I didn’t even know if anyone will read it. And I remember that when I saw that I had the first visitor, I was over the moon.

This blog was my escape place. The place where I was able to share my feelings, my moods, and my life with my visitors. From Europe to Asia, Africa to America or Australia, each one of you became part of my journey. And I am extremely grateful for this. Thanks a lot for taking the time to read and react to my posts. It means a lot. It gives me the motivation to keep going and better myself.

The first 2 years represented only the beginning. The best is yet to come. We are together in this. Love you all and continue to be part of Yanny’s Journey. 🙂

Today I am grateful for…

Hello everybody! Today is a better day than yesterday, worse than tomorrow. Just as Dory was saying in Finding Nemo:” When life gets you down, you know what you’ve gotta do?: Just keep swimming, just keep swimming”. This is what we all got to do: keep swimming in this ocean called life. Anyways, today is not about Disney movies, but gratefulness.

We are so used to have things and get more and complain when we can’t have something, that we forget to be grateful for what we already have. We become miserable by looking on social media and see celebrities or other people having expensive clothes, houses, and cars by developing a sense of envy for not having them too. At the same time forget to thank for what we do have instead of focusing on what we don’t.

But let me ask you something: Did you eat today? Did you drink clean water? Are you dressed? Are you still able to call your parents or grandparents? Do you have at least a person who you know truly cares about you and vice versa? If your answer was yes for any of these questions, then you are blessed and have at least 1 thing to be grateful for. You woke up, you got a new chance to live. Someone is losing their loved one right now, someone didn’t eat anything today. Others don’t have where to sleep or water to drink. The most basic needs.

Be grateful for your body, your mind, your soul. You are unique. Be grateful for your past: it taught you something; your present: you are still alive. The future is unsure for everybody. No one knows what will be tomorrow. Or if there will be tomorrow. Be grateful for life, for love, for everything that surrounds you.

Today I am grateful for you, the one who is reading this. The person who, through a blog post gets to be part of my life, my story, my journey. You? What are you grateful for today?:)

You are not good enough!!!….says who?

On the other side, when someone tells you this, pay attention to what type of person he/she is saying. Is he/she better than you? More experienced? Do they have dreams that they are working on? Or are those people who only live to interfere in others’ life?

I want to tell you something about my personal experience. YOU CAN DO ANYTHING!!!! YOU ARE CAPABLE AND ENOUGH TO FIGHT FOR YOUR DREAMS!! Let them talk, is the only thing they can do. You do yourself. It won’t be easy…nothing is easy in this life. There will be days when you will feel like you can move the mountains…and days that will feel like the mountains are falling over you. So what? Keep going.

One of my exes told me that I would never be good enough for anything…one of my ex-friends believed that I will never be able to do what I always wanted. And the tables turned, and they saw me succeed. Because I know what I am capable of. So if they leave you or tell you that you should change cause otherwise you are not good for them, let them go… or you go. You will always be good enough who truly see the value of yourself and your potential.

“You are not good enough! You may not be ready for this! You are worthless!”. I am sure we have all heard this bs at least once in our lives. Either from a teacher, a parent, friend, lover, or family, these statements are some of the worst “weapons” people are using against each other. And the scenario is always the same: they either say it for your good or just because they don’t want you to embarrass yourself. One of my dearest persons had always dreamed of being a cop. Her father told her so much that she is not good enough to do it and that he only wants the best for her, that eventually, she gave up on her dreams, and even now, 30 years after, she regrets it.

On the other side, when someone tells you this, pay attention to what type of person he/she is saying. Is he/she better than you? More experienced? Do they have dreams that they are working on? Or are those people who only live to interfere in others’ life?

I want to tell you something about my personal experience. YOU CAN DO ANYTHING!!!! YOU ARE CAPABLE AND ENOUGH TO FIGHT FOR YOUR DREAMS!! Let them talk, is the only thing they can do. You do yourself. It won’t be easy…nothing is easy in this life. There will be days when you will feel like you can move the mountains…and days that will feel like the mountains are falling over you. So what? Keep going.

One of my exes told me that I would never be good enough for anything…one of my ex-friends believed that I will never be able to do what I always wanted. And the tables turned, and they saw me succeed. Because I know what I am capable of. So if they leave you or tell you that you should change cause otherwise you are not good for them, let them go… or you go. You will always be good enough who truly see the value of yourself and your potential.

“You are not good enough! You may not be ready for this! You are worthless!”. I am sure we have all heard this bs at least once in our lives. Either from a teacher, a parent, friend, lover, or family, these statements are some of the worst “weapons” people are using against each other. And the scenario is always the same: they either say it for your good or just because they don’t want you to embarrass yourself. One of my dearest persons had always dreamed of being a cop. Her father told her so much that she is not good enough to do it and that he only wants the best for her, that eventually, she gave up on her dreams, and even now, 30 years after, she regrets it.

On the other side, when someone tells you this, pay attention to what type of person he/she is saying. Is he/she better than you? More experienced? Do they have dreams that they are working on? Or are those people who only live to interfere in others’ life?

I want to tell you something about my personal experience. YOU CAN DO ANYTHING!!!! YOU ARE CAPABLE AND ENOUGH TO FIGHT FOR YOUR DREAMS!! Let them talk, is the only thing they can do. You do yourself. It won’t be easy…nothing is easy in this life. There will be days when you will feel like you can move the mountains…and days that will feel like the mountains are falling over you. So what? Keep going.

One of my exes told me that I would never be good enough for anything…one of my ex-friends believed that I will never be able to do what I always wanted. And the tables turned, and they saw me succeed. Because I know what I am capable of. So if they leave you or tell you that you should change cause otherwise you are not good for them, let them go… or you go. You will always be good enough who truly see the value of yourself and your potential.

A love story to remember.

It is a rainy day…one of those whose when the only thing you want to do is to stay in bed and cuddle and watch movies with your partner. And this weather somehow made me think of love today, so this will be the topic for today: LOVE. I went today and had a coffee with my grandma. She and my grandfather were together for 50 years. And they loved each other with the same passion until my grandpa died. They and my parents are my models when it comes to love and family. And we started to talk about relationships then and now. Somehow made me believe that maybe I was born in the wrong generation.

Nowadays, relationships are so complex but empty. We run from responsibilities, but want others to see how happy we are. We forget to build together, and when the first problem appears, we search for the easiest solving, which sometimes means either the cheating or the breakup. As my grandma was saying, people were cheating when she was young too, but now it got worse as the options are endless: social media, dating app being the biggest traps. Another thing that was different back then was that people were willing to build a life together. Now, we want everything to happen right now and not wait for things to unfold. I have friends who broke up with amazing people as they didn’t have a prosperous financial situation. Our generation is more impressed by looks and finances than the soul and what you can do with that person in the long run.

But what left me speechless was that my grandma said that people choose to stay in a toxic/out of love relationship just for the status. More specifically, what will people say? Since I was a kid, they taught that if you don’t love or don’t feel that a person is right for you, let her go. Never stay with someone just for the public status: oh, she is with someone. Nope. Be with someone who truly respects, helps you grow, and makes you become the best version of yourself. Unfortunately, I know too many cases where the man or the woman have lost the feelings for each other or are not happy anymore. But prefer to stay in a relationship for the status or the kids. And they not only lose the chance of being truly happy with someone else but also precious years, as life is not waiting for any of us.

So where is that pure, true love we all crave for? That one you take your partner and go on adventures? The one that makes you want to conquer the world and create the most amazing memories? That love that makes you feel complete and the luckiest person in the world? Am I too romantic? Am I thinking of something that doesn’t exist anymore? Or the fact that maybe we met the wrong people made us believe that love is not for us or doesn’t exist?

Until we will find the answer, I want to wish you all a fantastic weekend, and thanks for being part of Yanny’s Journey :)!

Top 3 ways to improve your inner happiness.

In a crazy period like this, it is almost impossible to find inner peace, let alone happiness. But we are humans and we need that state of mind to survive what is next. Therefore, this post is about how to improve and maintain your inner happiness.
This pandemic showed us that, at the end of the day it is just us and ourselves. And that we can’t rely our happiness on anyone else, as otherwise, in times like this, we would be going down for sure. This is why today I will present you top 3 ways to improve your inner happiness. So let’s get started.

Number 1: Recreate the bound with yourself

Although we don’t realize it, we have a very special relationship with our body and soul. We just have to listen to it. Pay attention to the signals, your body gives you and how are you feeling mentally. Take a look in the mirror and see how much you have changed or see the things you may want to change. (I am not talking about plastic surgeries or things that may affect your health). I am referring to the things that may make you feel better.

Number 2: Listen to your heart…and brain

Running to please the people and show how amazing we are seemed to be a national sport before this pandemic. Everyone showing their best clothes, cars, jewelry, and everything material they had. Well, what happened when this nightmare started? They lost their popularity as they didn’t have anything left to show. As they were “full ” outside, but empty inside. This is why number 2 is about feeding your heart and brain. Improve yourself spiritually. And it is not on the religious side. Nope.

-Read a book.
-Meditate.
-Pray (if you want).
-Learn a new skill.
-Call your family/friends/someone close (have a soulful talk).
-Play with your pet(if you have any).
-Create a journal/plan about what you want to do next and stick to it.
-Create a unique challenge. For example, I challenge myself to don’t pass a day without learning something new: a word, a notion, whatever. But learn.
-Do that hobby that you loved but you left it due to the lack of time.
-Start following your dreams.

Number 3: Leave the world to follow its path


There is a saying:” When the past becomes your present, you lose the future”. Read this again and decide what do you want. Stay in the past or live in the present and create your future? I am honestly telling you from my experience. When you think too much about the past, you are not only losing days of your life for nothing but also ruin your future. We should think of the past as a football game. A game that happened yesterday and that is over. Why do you want to replay the same game over and over again? Regain control over your present and create new games. Better games. Because at the end of the game called life, you do not want to be the loser…you want to be the champion.

To summarize all of the above, to find and improve inner happiness is easy. It just requires a little bit of daily time for yourself, discipline, and courage to become a better version of yourself.

Dogs.The gift from heaven.

Hello everyone! Today is about a very dear subject of my life: dogs. It is about something that I call: the gift from heaven.

Since I was a toddler, I loved dogs. I remember that when we were seeing old ladies with cats, my friends were making fun of me that I will be an old lady with dogs :). Living in the city, but having relatives in the countryside, blessed me with many dogs. During school, I was having a friend with who I was going to feed the abandoned dogs with food stolen from home. I always wanted to have my own dog but my mom never wanted. Until one day.

It was the autumn of 2010. 15th of September 2010. We had a lot of discussions in the summer of that year about getting a dog. Both I and my father put a lot of pressure on my mom and in the end, she gave up. So that day, after school, we went to buy a dog. I was trembling when we got there. And the second I saw him, I knew he is the one. I didn’t anyone else, but him. Bijoux, Maltese Bichon, 6 weeks old. It was the moment when I felt what pure happiness meant. He was there and mine. After 18 years of waiting, I had my dog.

The years passed and day by day I am loving him with the same intensity as the first day. We have been through so many things together that it seems like a lifetime with him. The only thing that I hate the most is saying goodbye to him when I am going abroad. He goes into depression mood and it takes him a few days to recover although he is having my parents with him. But overall he is the most amazing dog I could’ve asked for.

There are people asking what is the purpose of the dog. I think one of the most beautiful definitions is given in the Family Guy’s episode “Brian & Stewie” when Brian says that he wanted to take his life for not having a purpose in life and Stewie says “maybe making someone else happy is enough, because it is the best gift one person can give.” This is the purpose of the dog. Giving you the most real love and loyal friendship that someone can give you without waiting for anything in return.

Dogs are a gift from heaven. A gift that sometimes we don’t appreciate at its fullest value. Either because we are tired, busy or too stressed we forgot to give them the same love they give to us. But no matter what, they are there. And looking at them and seeing that sparkle in the eyes and their happiness when they see you it makes you feel whole again. It gives you the feeling that you’re home, loved and cared for. And nothing else matters 🙂

2019- The year of transformation

Happy New Year lovely people!!!! I hope you will have a fantastic 2020, full of happiness and wishes fulfilled 🙂

“How was 2019 for you?” It is the question that I hear it since the year finished. And most of the answers are: “hard, nightmare, horrible”. Very few answers :”great, amazing, good”.

In my opinion, 2019 was a decisive year. A year of transformation. At least for myself. I started it with depression and I thought that it will be the end. It wasn’t. 2019 taught me how to raise and work to pull myself together. I lost and let people go out of my life: together or temporary. From priest to online help finder, I did everything to help me get an answer to what was wrong with me and why did I feel that way. A depressive girl in January ended up being the woman who helped others in December.

Regaining balance was the best thing 2019 taught me. And developing myself. I almost lost my grandma in July and that was a wake-up call. I started to get closer to the family, appreciate more the people around me and find out who was truly there for me. The transformation was going on, becoming stronger and with more lessons to get through. I stopped being the people pleaser, chose very carefully my entourage and started to fight for my dreams.

December was my final test. The man who a year ago, left me on Christmas day, got married. And then is when I finally understood that I was healed because I felt nothing at all. The winter holidays were the best in the last 7 years. Full of joy, love and happiness. The new me was there.

Looking back, 2019 was a beautiful nightmare. A roller-coaster that took me all over the places that I needed to improve and further develop myself. It was the year to gain back my friends and family. I hope that this one will be better and that I finally get everything back on track. Step by step.

And the most important thing: I want to say a huge THANK YOU to all of you who are reading my posts and are part of Yanny’s Journey. I love you and wish you all the best!! 🙂

This Christmas you are not alone!

Merry Christmas everyone! Today we will talk about Christmas. The most wonderful time of the year. And sometimes, one of the periods which causes us the worst pain.

This post is for all the people who, at the moment are feeling lonely , heartbroken or in pain. Studies are showing that Christmas is the period when people who are struggling are feeling the pain stronger than ever. And I know how it feels. Last year, Christmas was hell for me.

I have been dumped a year ago, this day, through a text message stating that not only he leaves me on Christmas day, but also he cheated on me. The shock was so strong, that months after, I found out that I almost died that night. I still can’t remember anything else from that moment or the following days. One year after, I got my friends and family back, I am happy and healed, and slowly but surely, gaining the control back.The point is , that even the worst moment can be survived. You may feel hopeless, lonely or worthless. But you are NOT. For sure, there is at least a person who truly loves and cares about you, a reason to fight for or a dream that you always wanted to achieve. For anyone reading this and who needs help, please know that you are not alone. The darkness will pass, the light will come back into your life.

Depression can be fought, the same as loneliness or emptiness. You have the most wonderful gift someone can have: YOURSELF. Look in the mirror and see how beautiful inside and outside you are. Let the Christmas vibe get into you. Love and appreciate yourself more.

This Christmas, you are not alone. Make this the best Christmas of your life. Smile, laugh, have fun…be happy!!! Happy Merry Christmas!!!!!:)

Be happy with yourself

Nobody can make you happy until you are happy with  yourself first. It is one of the most important lessons a woman needs to learn. This year taught me this the hardest way. I always was one of those people who care more about the needs of others and loved people more than myself.

I’ve always put myself in the last position, just to make sure that the ones around me are good. Little thing I knew that I was slowly, but surely losing myself. I got up to the point where I was exhausted, with a huge need for a break from reality. There were some problems and when I needed help, I realized that some of the people I was always there for, completely disappeared or told me that they have better things to do. That was the wake-up call. As a people pleaser, always seeking validation and attention from others, I decided it was time for a break. I felt empty, with no purpose in life, feeling like no people were caring or loving me. It was just me, myself and I.

I stayed in the darkness (mental darkness) for like 4 days. Refusing to get out of my room, sleeping and thinking. And one morning, I woke up and was like: it is time to care for myself. And the most important thing…..learn to love me again. I started to read, get involved in volunteering, do the things I loved the most. I even did a course that I wanted for years, but every time I was finding excuses to don’t. Done all the changes that I was craving for, but been too afraid to do them due to what people would say.

It’s been 2 months since I took that decision. And I frankly tell you that I am changed. It seems like the one I was at the beginning of the year, compared to the one I am now, is like 2 different persons in the same body. I don’t care about what others have to say, I don’t settle for less anymore, what I receive is what I give. I had people telling me (some of those who left me when I needed them the most) that they miss the old me as I was always there for them.

For all of you who are reading this and are in a similar situation, don’t ever leave yourself in second place. Your family, lover or friends can give you advice but it’s your decision on what you do with your life. Don’t live the life others want you to, live the life that makes you happy.

Keep going for your dreams, become the person you want and keep next to you only those who proved they are genuine. And never forget: You are the only RESPONSIBLE for your happiness. Look in the mirror and you will see the person that will always be there for you….and then you will realize your real value.