The only certainty that life gives you is yourself.

Hello everybody! Today is about a topic that we sometimes try to avoid because we find it hard to believe.

Since childhood, we are taught to deal with people. Not only with families, but people in general. And we hear very often the phrase ” I will always be with you”. And we raise and believe that, those words are real and that people will stay forever in our lives. Unfortunately, no one told us that forever doesn’t exist. As strange as it may sound, everyone is temporary. The only “forever” in our own lives is ourselves. No matter how close you are to someone, and how much you wish for that person to be part of your life, they will leave sooner or later. It is life’s process.

How many times you didn’t hear from your lover, best friend, and so on ” I will never leave you/ I am not like everyone else/ I am here to stay” and one day they just vanished? And you are being left on your own again, starting to put the pieces together and hoping that the next one will stay longer. The law of humanity says that what has a beginning, also has an ending. It is natural. Some endings are abrupt and painful, some just come naturally. The only things that are left are memories and lessons.

In our lives, we tend to give more credits to others, than to ourselves. But let me ask you something. Who is carrying on even when times seem hopeless? Who is fighting with everything and manages to put a smile on even when the inside storms are stronger than ever? That is right: you. People in our lives only know a piece of the entire story…of our story. No one can live your story, know you better than yourself, or how much you have suffered/ dealt with.

It is you who get out of bed every morning and get ready for another day. Who knows what comes next? The only undeniable idea is that until you die, you are your only forever.

Love you all, be safe and have a great day!!

Be all in or get all out

This seems to be the definition of 2021 so far. Since the first month, 2021 seemed to be the next level of what 2020 began. For many of us, 2021 continues to be the transforming path that the pandemic brought.

This year showed me how much 2020 changed me. I lost people that I loved and if 2 years ago or even last year I would have tried to keep them, well this year I just let them go. No explanation, no goodbye, no heartache. A closed door and that’s it.

I started to lose weight and proved to myself that as long as I am disciplined and focused, I can achieve everything. But the most important thing is that the key to happiness is to love and respect yourself first. Asking or expecting things from the wrong people will only damage you. Being an option is not a choice. Learn to be a priority, not an option. Don’t forget that the winner takes it all. And you are not a loser.

Don’t give anyone the chance to take the control of your life. No one is allowed to tell you what you can do or not. Almost three weeks ago, I got the vaccine for Covid 19 and some of my friends were like ” Oh you must crazy/stupid and so on for doing it and for believing in this virus”. Well, I don’t care. I put myself and my family above anyone else. So if I chose to do it, any opinion regarding my choice is worthless. Do you want anything? Go for it. It is better to get rejected or lose than regret that you didn’t do it.

Life is too short and beautiful. There are so many opportunities and things to do. Give the best of yourself always and don’t be afraid of what may happen. If it fails, it was a lesson. But what if you win? Be all in or get all out… Don’t accept to be in the middle when you can be the greatest. Have a lovely day everybody!

The frequency of love

In today’s society, love is more needed than ever. We all look for and crave love. Some of us admit some don’t. But the mechanism of life is given by love.

What we sometimes don’t understand is that love is not only the words ” I love you”. Love has its unique way to be prooved. A nice gesture, a message which shows care, being there for the person you love, showing support when they stop believing in themselves speak louder than the words. Phrases like ” I am proud of you/ I know you can do it”, ” Did you eat?/ arrived safely?”, ” I am here if you need me” or “You are not alone” weighs so much coming from the people you love.

Love is not only about your partner. Nope. Love has all the forms: love for family, friends, animals, hobbies, and so on. And this is the beauty of it. There are so many ways to experiment and offer love. However, what we learn with growing in life, is that we can give love to the wrong person. Not everyone deserves our love. Some people are really not meant for us. But imagine, if you can give love to the wrong person, how blessed will be the right one to be loved by you. Life gives us lessons, love too. It all depends on how much we want to learn.

And don’t worry if you are single now. We have all been there. Some of us are still. But this doesn’t mean that you can’t love or you are not loved. Because you are; look around you and see the people who care and love you. Look into your heart and see how much you love people. You may not be with the person you want now. That’s fine…Don’t despair. Maybe not now, but one day you will find that person who will love you like no one before. Because believe it or not, we all have our soulmate somewhere in this world. And one day you will find it. The only thing that is for sure is that love is the most wonderful gift life can give us.

Today I am grateful for…

Hello everybody! Today is a better day than yesterday, worse than tomorrow. Just as Dory was saying in Finding Nemo:” When life gets you down, you know what you’ve gotta do?: Just keep swimming, just keep swimming”. This is what we all got to do: keep swimming in this ocean called life. Anyways, today is not about Disney movies, but gratefulness.

We are so used to have things and get more and complain when we can’t have something, that we forget to be grateful for what we already have. We become miserable by looking on social media and see celebrities or other people having expensive clothes, houses, and cars by developing a sense of envy for not having them too. At the same time forget to thank for what we do have instead of focusing on what we don’t.

But let me ask you something: Did you eat today? Did you drink clean water? Are you dressed? Are you still able to call your parents or grandparents? Do you have at least a person who you know truly cares about you and vice versa? If your answer was yes for any of these questions, then you are blessed and have at least 1 thing to be grateful for. You woke up, you got a new chance to live. Someone is losing their loved one right now, someone didn’t eat anything today. Others don’t have where to sleep or water to drink. The most basic needs.

Be grateful for your body, your mind, your soul. You are unique. Be grateful for your past: it taught you something; your present: you are still alive. The future is unsure for everybody. No one knows what will be tomorrow. Or if there will be tomorrow. Be grateful for life, for love, for everything that surrounds you.

Today I am grateful for you, the one who is reading this. The person who, through a blog post gets to be part of my life, my story, my journey. You? What are you grateful for today?:)

You are not good enough!!!….says who?

On the other side, when someone tells you this, pay attention to what type of person he/she is saying. Is he/she better than you? More experienced? Do they have dreams that they are working on? Or are those people who only live to interfere in others’ life?

I want to tell you something about my personal experience. YOU CAN DO ANYTHING!!!! YOU ARE CAPABLE AND ENOUGH TO FIGHT FOR YOUR DREAMS!! Let them talk, is the only thing they can do. You do yourself. It won’t be easy…nothing is easy in this life. There will be days when you will feel like you can move the mountains…and days that will feel like the mountains are falling over you. So what? Keep going.

One of my exes told me that I would never be good enough for anything…one of my ex-friends believed that I will never be able to do what I always wanted. And the tables turned, and they saw me succeed. Because I know what I am capable of. So if they leave you or tell you that you should change cause otherwise you are not good for them, let them go… or you go. You will always be good enough who truly see the value of yourself and your potential.

“You are not good enough! You may not be ready for this! You are worthless!”. I am sure we have all heard this bs at least once in our lives. Either from a teacher, a parent, friend, lover, or family, these statements are some of the worst “weapons” people are using against each other. And the scenario is always the same: they either say it for your good or just because they don’t want you to embarrass yourself. One of my dearest persons had always dreamed of being a cop. Her father told her so much that she is not good enough to do it and that he only wants the best for her, that eventually, she gave up on her dreams, and even now, 30 years after, she regrets it.

On the other side, when someone tells you this, pay attention to what type of person he/she is saying. Is he/she better than you? More experienced? Do they have dreams that they are working on? Or are those people who only live to interfere in others’ life?

I want to tell you something about my personal experience. YOU CAN DO ANYTHING!!!! YOU ARE CAPABLE AND ENOUGH TO FIGHT FOR YOUR DREAMS!! Let them talk, is the only thing they can do. You do yourself. It won’t be easy…nothing is easy in this life. There will be days when you will feel like you can move the mountains…and days that will feel like the mountains are falling over you. So what? Keep going.

One of my exes told me that I would never be good enough for anything…one of my ex-friends believed that I will never be able to do what I always wanted. And the tables turned, and they saw me succeed. Because I know what I am capable of. So if they leave you or tell you that you should change cause otherwise you are not good for them, let them go… or you go. You will always be good enough who truly see the value of yourself and your potential.

“You are not good enough! You may not be ready for this! You are worthless!”. I am sure we have all heard this bs at least once in our lives. Either from a teacher, a parent, friend, lover, or family, these statements are some of the worst “weapons” people are using against each other. And the scenario is always the same: they either say it for your good or just because they don’t want you to embarrass yourself. One of my dearest persons had always dreamed of being a cop. Her father told her so much that she is not good enough to do it and that he only wants the best for her, that eventually, she gave up on her dreams, and even now, 30 years after, she regrets it.

On the other side, when someone tells you this, pay attention to what type of person he/she is saying. Is he/she better than you? More experienced? Do they have dreams that they are working on? Or are those people who only live to interfere in others’ life?

I want to tell you something about my personal experience. YOU CAN DO ANYTHING!!!! YOU ARE CAPABLE AND ENOUGH TO FIGHT FOR YOUR DREAMS!! Let them talk, is the only thing they can do. You do yourself. It won’t be easy…nothing is easy in this life. There will be days when you will feel like you can move the mountains…and days that will feel like the mountains are falling over you. So what? Keep going.

One of my exes told me that I would never be good enough for anything…one of my ex-friends believed that I will never be able to do what I always wanted. And the tables turned, and they saw me succeed. Because I know what I am capable of. So if they leave you or tell you that you should change cause otherwise you are not good for them, let them go… or you go. You will always be good enough who truly see the value of yourself and your potential.