The only certainty that life gives you is yourself.

Hello everybody! Today is about a topic that we sometimes try to avoid because we find it hard to believe.

Since childhood, we are taught to deal with people. Not only with families, but people in general. And we hear very often the phrase ” I will always be with you”. And we raise and believe that, those words are real and that people will stay forever in our lives. Unfortunately, no one told us that forever doesn’t exist. As strange as it may sound, everyone is temporary. The only “forever” in our own lives is ourselves. No matter how close you are to someone, and how much you wish for that person to be part of your life, they will leave sooner or later. It is life’s process.

How many times you didn’t hear from your lover, best friend, and so on ” I will never leave you/ I am not like everyone else/ I am here to stay” and one day they just vanished? And you are being left on your own again, starting to put the pieces together and hoping that the next one will stay longer. The law of humanity says that what has a beginning, also has an ending. It is natural. Some endings are abrupt and painful, some just come naturally. The only things that are left are memories and lessons.

In our lives, we tend to give more credits to others, than to ourselves. But let me ask you something. Who is carrying on even when times seem hopeless? Who is fighting with everything and manages to put a smile on even when the inside storms are stronger than ever? That is right: you. People in our lives only know a piece of the entire story…of our story. No one can live your story, know you better than yourself, or how much you have suffered/ dealt with.

It is you who get out of bed every morning and get ready for another day. Who knows what comes next? The only undeniable idea is that until you die, you are your only forever.

Love you all, be safe and have a great day!!

The frequency of love

In today’s society, love is more needed than ever. We all look for and crave love. Some of us admit some don’t. But the mechanism of life is given by love.

What we sometimes don’t understand is that love is not only the words ” I love you”. Love has its unique way to be prooved. A nice gesture, a message which shows care, being there for the person you love, showing support when they stop believing in themselves speak louder than the words. Phrases like ” I am proud of you/ I know you can do it”, ” Did you eat?/ arrived safely?”, ” I am here if you need me” or “You are not alone” weighs so much coming from the people you love.

Love is not only about your partner. Nope. Love has all the forms: love for family, friends, animals, hobbies, and so on. And this is the beauty of it. There are so many ways to experiment and offer love. However, what we learn with growing in life, is that we can give love to the wrong person. Not everyone deserves our love. Some people are really not meant for us. But imagine, if you can give love to the wrong person, how blessed will be the right one to be loved by you. Life gives us lessons, love too. It all depends on how much we want to learn.

And don’t worry if you are single now. We have all been there. Some of us are still. But this doesn’t mean that you can’t love or you are not loved. Because you are; look around you and see the people who care and love you. Look into your heart and see how much you love people. You may not be with the person you want now. That’s fine…Don’t despair. Maybe not now, but one day you will find that person who will love you like no one before. Because believe it or not, we all have our soulmate somewhere in this world. And one day you will find it. The only thing that is for sure is that love is the most wonderful gift life can give us.

5 ways to tame your brain

Hello, lovely people!! I hope you are all OK! Day 22 of my challenge, another lesson to share with you.

At different stages in our lives, we want different things: a good job, a great car/house, someone to love us, and so on. Almost always we try to create a perfect picture of how our life has to be. This is human nature. But when we face the reality and see that things are not how we want, the first reaction is to give up and think that we are not good enough. And the mind starts its “terrible dance” again and takes us to the dark place of feeling helpless and unworthy. What we don’t know is that the mind itself is either our greatest enemy or biggest friend. How many times you didn’t have a special event or great job opportunity that you gave up just because you were telling yourself that you can’t do it?

Throughout the years, studies have shown that one of the most important factors for low self-esteem and lack of confidence is given by the brain. That little voice inside you killed more dreams than anything else. And it continues to play its games until you learn how to enter the game too. How? It is easy but it takes time and discipline. Today I will talk about 5 ways that in my case showed great results:

1) Meditate!! I can’t emphasize this enough. As crazy as it may look, meditation has been used for ages to improve your brain activity and calm it when things are getting too tough. It is also amazing for breathing and it boosts your mood.

2) Reading: Read as much as you can. Everything you want. Books are called in some cultures the food of the brain and soul. If you suffer from fears, phobias, or anything related to this, I suggest you read ‘ Psychology of Fear” by Christophe Andre. It is an amazing book.

3) Affirmations: Create a positive environment for your brain by using positive affirmations; daily. I am practicing this in the morning and when I go to sleep. I have my personal “ritual” of positive affirmations and believe me. it shows results.

4)Understand yourself and your brain: it is Ok to not be Ok, but why are you feeling a certain way? What beliefs affect you? Remember that you make your beliefs and those beliefs make you

5) Bring on the unfamiliar: there are times when we are scared of certain activities or experiences just because our brain is not familiar with them and the first response is being scared. Try at least 2 a week to do something different: a new activity, new food, new place. Do something that you want but forget about fear for a moment. Please be aware that I am not talking about something that can put in danger your life. Nope, something that you didn’t think you always wanted but you didn’t think you were capable of.

Use these techniques and see how your life will improve. It is all about perspective.

Today I am grateful for…

Hello everybody! Today is a better day than yesterday, worse than tomorrow. Just as Dory was saying in Finding Nemo:” When life gets you down, you know what you’ve gotta do?: Just keep swimming, just keep swimming”. This is what we all got to do: keep swimming in this ocean called life. Anyways, today is not about Disney movies, but gratefulness.

We are so used to have things and get more and complain when we can’t have something, that we forget to be grateful for what we already have. We become miserable by looking on social media and see celebrities or other people having expensive clothes, houses, and cars by developing a sense of envy for not having them too. At the same time forget to thank for what we do have instead of focusing on what we don’t.

But let me ask you something: Did you eat today? Did you drink clean water? Are you dressed? Are you still able to call your parents or grandparents? Do you have at least a person who you know truly cares about you and vice versa? If your answer was yes for any of these questions, then you are blessed and have at least 1 thing to be grateful for. You woke up, you got a new chance to live. Someone is losing their loved one right now, someone didn’t eat anything today. Others don’t have where to sleep or water to drink. The most basic needs.

Be grateful for your body, your mind, your soul. You are unique. Be grateful for your past: it taught you something; your present: you are still alive. The future is unsure for everybody. No one knows what will be tomorrow. Or if there will be tomorrow. Be grateful for life, for love, for everything that surrounds you.

Today I am grateful for you, the one who is reading this. The person who, through a blog post gets to be part of my life, my story, my journey. You? What are you grateful for today?:)

You are not good enough!!!….says who?

On the other side, when someone tells you this, pay attention to what type of person he/she is saying. Is he/she better than you? More experienced? Do they have dreams that they are working on? Or are those people who only live to interfere in others’ life?

I want to tell you something about my personal experience. YOU CAN DO ANYTHING!!!! YOU ARE CAPABLE AND ENOUGH TO FIGHT FOR YOUR DREAMS!! Let them talk, is the only thing they can do. You do yourself. It won’t be easy…nothing is easy in this life. There will be days when you will feel like you can move the mountains…and days that will feel like the mountains are falling over you. So what? Keep going.

One of my exes told me that I would never be good enough for anything…one of my ex-friends believed that I will never be able to do what I always wanted. And the tables turned, and they saw me succeed. Because I know what I am capable of. So if they leave you or tell you that you should change cause otherwise you are not good for them, let them go… or you go. You will always be good enough who truly see the value of yourself and your potential.

“You are not good enough! You may not be ready for this! You are worthless!”. I am sure we have all heard this bs at least once in our lives. Either from a teacher, a parent, friend, lover, or family, these statements are some of the worst “weapons” people are using against each other. And the scenario is always the same: they either say it for your good or just because they don’t want you to embarrass yourself. One of my dearest persons had always dreamed of being a cop. Her father told her so much that she is not good enough to do it and that he only wants the best for her, that eventually, she gave up on her dreams, and even now, 30 years after, she regrets it.

On the other side, when someone tells you this, pay attention to what type of person he/she is saying. Is he/she better than you? More experienced? Do they have dreams that they are working on? Or are those people who only live to interfere in others’ life?

I want to tell you something about my personal experience. YOU CAN DO ANYTHING!!!! YOU ARE CAPABLE AND ENOUGH TO FIGHT FOR YOUR DREAMS!! Let them talk, is the only thing they can do. You do yourself. It won’t be easy…nothing is easy in this life. There will be days when you will feel like you can move the mountains…and days that will feel like the mountains are falling over you. So what? Keep going.

One of my exes told me that I would never be good enough for anything…one of my ex-friends believed that I will never be able to do what I always wanted. And the tables turned, and they saw me succeed. Because I know what I am capable of. So if they leave you or tell you that you should change cause otherwise you are not good for them, let them go… or you go. You will always be good enough who truly see the value of yourself and your potential.

“You are not good enough! You may not be ready for this! You are worthless!”. I am sure we have all heard this bs at least once in our lives. Either from a teacher, a parent, friend, lover, or family, these statements are some of the worst “weapons” people are using against each other. And the scenario is always the same: they either say it for your good or just because they don’t want you to embarrass yourself. One of my dearest persons had always dreamed of being a cop. Her father told her so much that she is not good enough to do it and that he only wants the best for her, that eventually, she gave up on her dreams, and even now, 30 years after, she regrets it.

On the other side, when someone tells you this, pay attention to what type of person he/she is saying. Is he/she better than you? More experienced? Do they have dreams that they are working on? Or are those people who only live to interfere in others’ life?

I want to tell you something about my personal experience. YOU CAN DO ANYTHING!!!! YOU ARE CAPABLE AND ENOUGH TO FIGHT FOR YOUR DREAMS!! Let them talk, is the only thing they can do. You do yourself. It won’t be easy…nothing is easy in this life. There will be days when you will feel like you can move the mountains…and days that will feel like the mountains are falling over you. So what? Keep going.

One of my exes told me that I would never be good enough for anything…one of my ex-friends believed that I will never be able to do what I always wanted. And the tables turned, and they saw me succeed. Because I know what I am capable of. So if they leave you or tell you that you should change cause otherwise you are not good for them, let them go… or you go. You will always be good enough who truly see the value of yourself and your potential.

Stop running. Start living.

We are used to running. And I am not talking about sport. I am talking about running for money, for things, happiness, everything. But we forget we are running out of time. We do not know where is the finish line. No one knows. However, in this marathon, we forget to live. And breathe.

Take a moment to breathe. Just do it. And think of when was the last time you had a break. Not the typical work break, but a break for your soul. A break to do what you always wanted to do, but didn’t have time as you were busier to run.

This virus is more than a disease. It is a “tool” to give us a reset. To remember what are the most important things. I have decided to stay at home. Go back to my parents and stay with them and my dog for 2 weeks at least. And believe me that I feel as if I am a child again. I have the chance to get some time with them again without being pressured by the fact that I have work to do or I am too busy to talk to them. Nope. I am cooking with my mom, enjoying a glass of wine with my father while we remember the old times and spend quality time with my dog. Reconnecting with them and myself. I have plenty of time to call my grandmothers and make sure they are ok, taking care of the plants, doing the courses I wanted and even writing on the blog.

We are so consumed by the work and everyday stress that we forget that our emotions dictate time, not clocks. This is our time to look next to us and within us and appreciate what we have. Now we can reflect on ourselves, enjoy the moment, manifest and let go of all the negative emotions we’ve carried with us for a long time. Due to everything stopping/ being closed, the planet is healing. It is our time to heal too.

So what are you waiting for? Staying at home is not that bad. Not on this occasion. Grab a book, watch a movie, cook something new. Do a change in your house. Mediate and manifest. Call your parents and grandparents. Make them happy. Listen to your soul and do something for it.

Maybe after all of this panic will end and the things will come back to normal, you will get back to your stress and worries. Or maybe, this quarantine will help to understand yourself better and make a difference to what it really matters.

Give it a shot. Stay at home. You are not only helping you but others too. And start living 🙂

The darkest hour is just before the dawn…

For a very long period, I refused to believe this. When people are looking at you and treat you as a failure, your first reaction is to see only the dark side. No lights at the end, no stars, nothing. Plain darkness.

Have you ever been in a situation when you feel like you have no option, life purpose or hope? A moment when you feel like your life is ending although you are still young? Well, it happens to most of us at some point in our lives, even though we want to admit it or not. And having people judging or leaving you when you need them the most is not helping too much.

When you are unemployed for a long period (1 year+) due to various reasons, people don’t want to listen to your story but treat you as if you deserve anything good. As if you are a wreck. This includes family. It is awful to hear from you blood-related people remarks like: ” Oh noo. This is the end of your life.no one will hire you now. You lost it all”.Not even a cheering phrase or a good word. Nothing.

And then you have 2 choices: give up or move on and see what life has for you. In my case,I’ve decided to isolate myself from those toxic people and look for support and help in strangers. And I managed somehow to see a light. It is still a long way to go, but at least I am slowly moving. I started another blog (travel one), I am doing new courses and developing myself both personally and professionally, and helping others who were in my situation. More than my closest friends and my parents, no one knows what I am doing, because I stopped giving an explanation to anyone.

I had strangers helping me more than my own family. And I fought so much with myself that I am finally proud of myself. Life goes on, but you can’t ever forget who was truly next to you when you needed them. Those who believed in you, when you were at your lowest point.Family isn’t always blood.Family is made by those who truly love and care about you.

And remember that no matter what you are going through at the moment, there will always be a light at the “end of the tunnel”. And that the darkest hour is just before the dawn.