Self-love is dangerous

Very dangerous actually. Have you ever been to a supermarket and went to those stands where you can sample a product? Well, self-love is like tasting the finest chocolate and wanting to buy it immediately. What you don’t know is that in the end, you will become addicted to it. Both chocolate and self-love:)

When you choose yourself over others, you understand that a new chapter begins. No one says it’s easy. But the results are fantastic. When I first started to work on myself, I was at the edge of giving up every day. It was too painful and too difficult. No one told me that there will be people leaving my life, that I will stop doing things that I thought I had to do before or act a certain way. What no one tells you is that working on yourself and learning to love yourself will create waves for your mental health. One moment you feel like you can conquer the world, the next one you cry worse than a baby. Because your mind is used to the familiarity of the things you were previously doing and these big changes are like a reset to it.

You will eventually get to the point where you will set boundaries, choose more carefully your entourage and understand that you deserve the best. You will have a clearer image of who you are and what you want. A month and a half ago, I started the biggest work on myself. I have never been more disciplined, focused, and determined before. But scared at the same time. Until I found the pace. I started to journal daily, create a routine, and use positive affirmations, and meditate. This was the best decision ever. Because I realized my true potential, now I am more able to understand and deal with my emotions and truly love myself. I finally understood that I am worthy and enough, that is my life, my choices. I stopped asking people to stay, just kept the door open, and I appreciated more those who had 100 reasons to leave but found 101 reasons to stay.

The best gift you can do to yourself is love. Before expecting or loving anyone else, love yourself. You will discover a new you and a new world to explore. Just do it 🙂 Have an amazing weekend.

The power of words

Hello! Today is a good day; very productive one. Day 11 of my challenge came with a lesson.

Since I was a child, my family taught me to pay attention to others and be kind, as you never know their story or inside battles. So things like “take care”, “have a nice day” or questions like “did you eat/sleep well?”, “Is everything ok?” was a habit for me.

But what I didn’t know was the impact these words were having on others. I was hearing very often remarks like “Oh you are the first one who is wishing me good things today or who is being nice to me” from retail workers, colleagues, or people that I was meeting, but I didn’t think of it too much as I had the impression that they were only nice.

However, last year, the first morning after I talked to my ex(our first conversation), I sent him a text: “Good morning, have an amazing day”. His reaction was priceless; one of the most beautiful reactions I have ever seen. Weeks later, he told me that although he had other relationships, I was the first one that woke him with a message like this. And he truly meant that. Cause he was keen to see his morning messages, and when he didn’t receive one, he was panicking.

Today, I talked to a friend who was not in his best mood but had to go to work. And I only texted him:” Have an easy shift and take care”. That “take care” made him emotional. He called me and said something like: ” Not even my family ever says this. This text made me feel worthy.”

The point is, you never know what or how someone’s life is. Words can destroy a person but also improve their mood and life in general. Being kind is free. But the impact that it can have on a person is huge. Being nicer to people makes us happy too. How many times weren’t you happy to see someone smile? Or be nice to you?

In a world full of conflicts, illness, and bad news, try to be the rainbow in someone’s clouds. Love you all! Yanny’s Journey continues 🙂