Very dangerous actually. Have you ever been to a supermarket and went to those stands where you can sample a product? Well, self-love is like tasting the finest chocolate and wanting to buy it immediately. What you don’t know is that in the end, you will become addicted to it. Both chocolate and self-love:)
When you choose yourself over others, you understand that a new chapter begins. No one says it’s easy. But the results are fantastic. When I first started to work on myself, I was at the edge of giving up every day. It was too painful and too difficult. No one told me that there will be people leaving my life, that I will stop doing things that I thought I had to do before or act a certain way. What no one tells you is that working on yourself and learning to love yourself will create waves for your mental health. One moment you feel like you can conquer the world, the next one you cry worse than a baby. Because your mind is used to the familiarity of the things you were previously doing and these big changes are like a reset to it.
You will eventually get to the point where you will set boundaries, choose more carefully your entourage and understand that you deserve the best. You will have a clearer image of who you are and what you want. A month and a half ago, I started the biggest work on myself. I have never been more disciplined, focused, and determined before. But scared at the same time. Until I found the pace. I started to journal daily, create a routine, and use positive affirmations, and meditate. This was the best decision ever. Because I realized my true potential, now I am more able to understand and deal with my emotions and truly love myself. I finally understood that I am worthy and enough, that is my life, my choices. I stopped asking people to stay, just kept the door open, and I appreciated more those who had 100 reasons to leave but found 101 reasons to stay.
The best gift you can do to yourself is love. Before expecting or loving anyone else, love yourself. You will discover a new you and a new world to explore. Just do it 🙂 Have an amazing weekend.
Hello everybody! Today I want to share with you one of the things that helped me realize my worth and increase my self-esteem and self-trust. How many times in life you didn’t hear things like: ” Be more like I want and I will love you more?”,” Change this or that and I will appreciate you more?”, ” If you don’t do things as I want, I will leave you?”. Seriously now. Studies have shown that we, as humans, are more likely to change based on others’ needs and expectations than by satisfying ours. However, the same studies revealed that by doing so. we are slowly but surely losing our identity.
Either it is about a friend, lover, or family member, how many times you didn’t lower your standards or acted in a certain way just to make them happy? Now the question is, would they do the same? Or are they asking things from you without being able to provide anything in exchange?
I used to do the same mistake. I was like a muppet. Everyone’s opinion was above my needs. And guess what? I lost dreams, projects, amazing people due to listening to people that left me in the first second that I stopped listening to them. However, this was a blessing in disguise. It made me find the real me, love me, and care for myself more and appreciate more those who stay and accept me the way I am. I lost people that I didn’t think I could live without, and yet I am still here. Life is not about scared to lose others, but about losing yourself. No one stays forever in our lives. We are the only guarantee in this life. For how long no one knows. But it is our game and we should follow our rules.
My personal experience made me understand something: my freedom ends where yours begins. Relating this to the first paragraph, what those people are trying to do is manipulate. When there is love, respect, and trust, you don’t manipulate. You manipulate when you are 0 in terms of education, self-esteem, and care towards others. So if you had this type of person in your life and lost them, be happy. Cause if you lost them, but found yourself, you won. Don’t lose yourself for anyone, it’s not worth it!
Have a fantastic day! 🙂